‘My husband doesn’t think our children should have doors to their bedrooms’

A woman said that her husband has a strict ‘no closed doors’ policy for their son – so he removed it, leaving him with an empty frame.

Sharing her story anonymously, the woman said that she and her husband didn’t see eye to eye on the issue but he insisted that their 14-year-old son shouldn’t expect privacy.

He said that the youngster was under their care and they should be able to keep an eye on him, so he removed the door to his bedroom.

Now the woman has angered her husband after going out and buying her son a door for his birthday, which she sneakily had installed when her husband was away on a trip.

Taking to Reddit, the woman said: “My husband believes that until he is 18, our son shouldn’t conceal his room as he is under our care.

“This has been one of the things straining our relationship lately, as I think that a teen should have some freedom, maybe not completely out of our site, but you know a door at least.

“But my husband keeps insisting on him having almost no freedom at all. Whenever I bring up the door thing, he just shuts me down with ‘this is what it’ll take him to be a man’ and ‘this is how I was raised’.

“Both my son’s birthday and Christmas are coming up, and I decided that he should finally have a door to his room.

“So, I went behind my husband’s back and bought a new door and hurried it to be installed while they were both away. When my son came from school he was incredibly delighted, but my husband didn’t receive the news so well.

“He told me that this is not the kind of decision that I should be making by myself and that I disrespected his authority, and now he is refusing to even sleep in the same bed as me.

“I’ve been wondering if this should have been a conversation rather than me disrespecting his wishes.”

After sharing her story online, the woman was inundated with advice from people who said that her husband was in the wrong.

One said: “Your husband is super controlling. Scary frankly.”

While another said: “Your husband was the one who made the decision to not let him have a door, without your input, and now you’ve shown him what that’s like and he doesn’t like it.

“My question is why have you stayed so long with a man who treats your son this way?

And a third wrote: “There are bigger issues here than the door, which is already a big issue.

“I believe not having a door or any right to privacy is abusive. I’m sorry your husband was brought up in an abusive home but that doesn’t give him the right to abuse your son.”